Counselling for gay couples
  • I’m Rafael – a counsellor and gay man with over 15 years’ professional experience. I help gay couples to overcome the hurdles and work through pivotal moments in their relationships.

    I offer effective short-term, intensive counselling working with gay couples to fully understand their underlying issues and whatever is holding them back, so that together we can develop personalised, sustainable and life-changing solutions through 10 face-to-face sessions spread over eight weeks or less. If your relationship has stalled and you both need support then I will work with you to gain clarity and move forward, so do get in touch.

    Rafaël Dupré - counsellor
    0207 193 1882

  • Gay couples counselling and relationship therapy in London

    I specialise in the gay couples counselling, drawing on over 15 years experience as a gay counsellor in the UK and Europe.

"My role is to help you re-evaluate and re-shape your relationship,
so that by improving communication you start to notice that what ties you together is often a lot stronger than what pulls you apart.“

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Face-to-face sessions

Following a 45-minute telephone assessment, in our first face-to-face sessions we will work together to understand your issues as a couple and the strategies that are already in place. By putting equal emphasis on what’s good and valuable you will already start to feel positive about the fact that change is possible BEFORE we move on to fully understanding and tackling the more difficult underlying issues.

In between sessions

In between our face-to-face meetings, you will both need to commit to keeping a journal and start practicing and integrating specific techniques into everyday thinking, communication and behaviour. Because this implementation is continuous during the course of your therapy – rather than at the end of the programme – significant change is noticeable very early on, usually between 3 and 6 weeks.

Follow up support

After the ten sessions, follow up is available, but this happens via Skype and through deliberately shorter 30-minute sessions to encourage clients to continue to think and act independently, safe in the knowledge that support or positive reinforcement is there if and when they really need it.

To find our more about how I work, you can always email me:
Caring, effective and time efficient

Caring, effective and time efficient

I charge £105 per hour per couple (£85 per hour for individuals) for sessions in London, either in Victoria or Liverpool Street. I include two free 30-minute follow up calls as part of the effective short-term therapy programme. If you would like subsequent follow up sessions by Skype these are charged at £35 for 30 minutes. I also offer a limited number of places at student and concessionary rates.

I am a registered member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP), am fully insured and work within the BACP Ethical Framework. I undertake ongoing professional training and attend regular sessions with a BACP-accredited supervisor to ensure consistently high standards of care.

To book an assessment, simply email me – or call
020 7193 1882.

  • About me

    Since my gaining my degree in my native Belgium I have been a counsellor and psychotherapist in various mental health organisations and government-funded programmes in Europe before spending time living and working Asia.

    I moved to the UK in 2011 and now divide my time between practices in London and rural Kent, and Bali, Indonesia.

    I have been married to my British husband for over 10 years and together we raise twin sons who were born through international surrogacy during our time living and working in India.

    I myself have experienced highs and lows and have had to confront and deal with many issues relating to my own life. Now, my own background and experiences, positive and negative, allow me to better understand the broader context of my clients’ issues and in particular to remove any perceived taboos or nervousness about discussing gay, sexual or sex-related topics.

    In addition to my ongoing professional development, I have completed vocational courses in contextual therapy, family therapy, working with victims of (sexual) abuse, addiction (sex, substances, porn), attachment related difficulties and relational issues.

I helped a young gay couple out of a negative spiral of trust issues, giving them insight in to their insecurities so that they could communicate constructively and plan a future together.
I helped a gay couple in their 40s overcome a breakdown in their relationship after one of them had experimented sexually outside the relationship.
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Frequently Asked Questions [+]

  • What is the purpose of the initial assessment session?
    The assessment is an opportunity to get to know each other and so that you can explain a bit about your situation and why you might need help. I will tell you more about who I am and how I work and if you both feel comfortable talking to me, then we will decide together what your goals for therapy will be and put together a timing plan for achieving those goals.

  • Will there be a counselling contract and what is in the contract?
    I make a contract with all my clients – it sets out the expectations from both sides and agrees basic things like when your sessions will take place, fees, how I deal with confidentiality, my cancelation policy and the legal and ethical frameworks within which I work.

  • When will my therapy take place?
    If you choose to start short term therapy using the Brugge Model, we will normally have ten sessions over eight weeks. Two sessions during the first week and after that weekly sessions at a fixed timeslot. The last two sessions will a take place during the last week. So every week you would have therapy on the same day at the same time apart from the extra sessions during the first and the last week.

  • How much will therapy cost me?
    Intensive short term therapy costs £105 per session and can be paid ahead or in three payments spread out over total duration. Payments can be made in cash or by bank transfer ahead of the sessions.

  • What if I need to cancel or re-book a session?
    When we plan your therapy, I set time aside to see you each week, so if you need to cancel then you will still need to pay the full fees for that session. This is not only a practical consideration but also helps to minimise the interruptions to your therapy which can undermine your progress.

  • How long will I need therapy for?
    We will agree during the initial assessment session where the priorities are, and we will work with a set of goals that is achievable within 10 sessions. After that we can agree on an number of follow up sessions if needed and appropriate, possibly via Skype.

  • What happens if I no longer can continue therapy?
    If for whatever reason you will still need to pay for any planned sessions, which gives us time to draw the therapy to an appropriate close, rather than leaving things with an abrupt ending and unanswered questions.

  • Can I contact you outside the agreed weekly time?
    If you would need to contact me outside the weekly time to cancel a session for instance, you can email me, or call 0207 193 1882 and leave a message. I will get back to you as soon as possible.