Counselling in Tenterden - Rafael Dupré

My name is Rafael. I have been a professional counsellor for nearly 20 years – helping both adults and young people to really understand whatever it is that’s preventing them from enjoying life to the full.

With the right help, I’m convinced that everybody can make change happen, even in a short space of time. So, no matter what your situation, I’m here to provide the non-judgmental, confidential space you need to explore your thoughts and feelings. And together we will find a way forward.

A confidential 50-minute face-to-face counselling session costs £55, with the flexibility of daytime, evening or weekend appointments. I can almost certainly offer you an assessment session this week, so if you need support and are seriously considering counselling then do get in touch.

Rafaël Dupré - counselling in Tenterden and Benenden
01580 445 005

Read what my clients say... [+]

  • “I was extremely nervous the first time I met Raf as I had never had counselling before. However this soon subsided and I very quickly felt that he was someone I could explore issues with, feeling safe and understood. Rafael has a very professional approach and works hard to get to the bottom of issues and find realistic ways forward. Much appreciated!”

    H.A. 38 years old, PR executive
  • “I came to Raf with a challenging set of circumstances, particularly because of confidentiality arising from my own line of work. He was not fazed by this at all and immediately created an environment where I could still work through specific problems and develop insight in to my behaviour. The results have been thoroughly transformative and I have the greatest respect for Raf’s ability and professionalism.”

    Anon. 49 years old, Barrister
  • “I had never really understood my emotions, often feeling that they were completely out of my control. Thanks to Raf I can now take responsibility for my own life and life experiences and have grown in confidence both on a personal and professional level…am now a better husband, parent, friend and manager because of it. I am not always the the easiest person to be deal with, but Raf was patient and persistent, allowing me to take the time I needed.”

    A.C. 37 years old, Finance manager
  • “Through my sessions with Raf I quickly realised that my childhood had actually been quite difficult and was ultimately affecting the way I felt towards others as an adult. I felt comfortable discussing aspects of my life that I have never revealed to anyone – a huge leap of faith for me. Raf has a very compassionate and caring approach and I felt supported every step of the way.”

    J.J. 58 years old, Civil servant
  • “It has taken quite a few sessions, but Raf has really helped me to transform myself into a whole person again. Thanks to his patience, insight and guidance I can now see how and why I avoided emotional commitment. I now feel able to truly connect with others, not least my partner.”

    M.R. 31 years old, Administrator
  • “I am very pleased with the outcome from my counselling. It has allowed me to put an end to some very destructive behaviours and feel positive about the future. What I learned in my sessions with Raf will benefit me for the rest of my life.”

    J.S. 40 years old, Sales director
  • “When I met Raf I was experiencing severe work-related stress and could barely face going in to the office. I had started to panic about losing my job or being forced to take time off. Raf was incredibly intuitive, kind and supportive throughout the process and I now have a completely different perspective and ways in which I can tackle problems. Thank you for all your help!”

    B.L. 34 years old, Accountant
  • “I was initially very sceptical about counselling, but through Raf realised that it could offer me a ‘safe’ environment to really deal with many things which I could never talk to even my husband or best friends about. It has been a totally liberating experience and I would recommend Raf to anyone.”

    S.M. 49 years old, IT consultant
  • “Working with Raf I felt I always had the option to talk or just to be silent. It was an enormous help to just be able to set my own pace and agenda, knowing that he would always create a constructive way of dealing with things as they came up. In only a few short months my outlook on life has changed.”

    F.D. 63 years old, Teacher
  • “I would like to thank Raf for his help. There was no one who I could talk to or who understood me. I was always scared of being a loner because of my thoughts and behaviour. Raf never judged me or made me feel I was a bad person, even when I got angry. I am getting closer to my dad again and at school things are getting a lot better.”

    C.L. 15 years old, Student

" Every person is an individual - not just the sum of their issues, but also their potential. "

Read more about how I work [+]

  • Assessment

    Our first meeting will always be a 50-minute assessment session where you can talk about what you want from counselling, ask questions and decide if I am someone you feel comfortable with and can trust and be open with. Together we will then decide on the right approach for you as an individual, be it short-term intensive therapy with a fixed number of sessions, or more long-term and open-ended.
  • How I work

    I usually see clients on a weekly basis and use what’s known as a integrative approach – integrating the affective, behavioural, cognitive, and physiological systems within one person, as well as addressing social and spiritual aspects. That just means that I work with each client as a whole person and use a variety of techniques to get the best result for you as an individual.
  • Follow-up and support

    My goal is to make sure that you spend as little time ‘in therapy’ as possible, so that you can focus on actually implementing the changes that will improve your life and allow you to move forward. However, if you do need further support then we can always agree follow-up either by telephone or Skype, or through further face-to-face sessions.

    Find out which issues I can help with [+]



    Adoption issues

    Anger and aggression

    Attachment disorders



    Career, work and stress

    Depression and anxiety

    Domestic violence

    Eating disorders

    Emotional abuse

    Family issues

    LGBT issues

    Low self-confidence

    Low self-esteem

    Relationships and divorce

    Sex and sexuality


    Making counselling affordable

    Making counselling affordable

    I charge £55 per hour for counselling appointments in Benenden, Cranbrook and Tenterden and £80 per hour for couples. Assessments are charged at a flat rate of £35.

    I also offer a limited number of appointments at concessionary rates for students and individuals who are on a low income.

    I am a registered member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP), am fully insured and work within the BACP Ethical Framework. I undertake ongoing professional training and attend regular sessions with a BACP-accredited supervisor to ensure consistently high standards of care. I also hold current enhanced DBS certificates which allow me to work with both minors and vulnerable adults.

    To book an assessment, simply email me – or call 01580 445 005.

    • About me

      Since gaining my degree in my native Belgium I have been a counsellor and psychotherapist in various mental health organisations and government-funded programmes in Europe before spending time living and working in Asia. I moved to the UK in 2011 and now divide my time between private practices in London and rural Kent, focusing on general therapy, as well as effective short-term counselling to help adults and young people make significant advances in their lives in a short period of time. I am also a teacher registered with the General Teaching Council of England (NCTL).

      In addition to my ongoing professional development, I have completed vocational courses in contextual therapy, family therapy, working with victims of (sexual) abuse, addiction (sex, substances, porn), attachment related difficulties and relational issues.

    I helped a couple in their thirties to understand each other’s different perceptions of affection and intimacy so that they could realistically change their expectations of each other.
    I helped a 32 year-old man whose anger was undermining his performance at work so that he could channel his frustrations and separate them from his home life.
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    I helped a 28 year-old woman develop successful coping strategies for anxiety in her professional life allowing her to gain the promotion she wanted.
    I helped a 27 year-old man accept the anxieties that were driving his alcohol addiction so that he could be open and honest with those around him.

    Frequently Asked Questions [+]

    • What is the purpose of the initial assessment session?
      The assessment is an opportunity to get to know each other and so that you can explain a bit about your situation and why you might need help. I will tell you more about who I am and how I work and if you feel comfortable talking to me, then we will decide together what your goals for therapy will be and put together a timing plan for achieving those goals.

    • Will there be a counselling contract and what is in the contract?
      I make a contract with all my clients – it sets out the expectations from both sides and agrees basic things like when your sessions will take place, fees, how I deal with confidentiality, my cancellation policy and the legal and ethical frameworks within which I work.

    • When will my therapy take place?
      From the outset we can agree any dates or times that you (or I) are not available, but other than that we will usually meet on the same day at the same time every week, which really does help in terms of continuity and ensuring that you make progress.

    • How much will therapy cost me?
      Depending on your income sessions cost £40 or £60 if your household income is over £50,000 per year. This can be paid in advance by BACS transfer, Direct Debit or in cash on the day. Unfortunately I do not accept payments by card or cheque.

    • What if I need to cancel or re-book a session?
      When we plan your therapy, I set time aside to see you each week, so if you need to cancel then you will still need to pay the full fees for that session. This is not only a practical consideration but also helps to minimise the interruptions to your therapy which can undermine your progress.

    • How long will I need therapy for?
      This is something that we will establish through the initial assessment when we look at the specific issues you want to work on and what is realistic. Many clients will work across 10 to 15 sessions, with the option of additional sessions afterwards. I also work on an open-ended basis, which might be six to twelve months, depending on your circumstances and needs.

    • What happens if I no longer can continue therapy?
      If for whatever reason you are not able to continue therapy there is a four week notice period, which gives us time to draw the therapy to an appropriate close, rather than leaving things with an abrupt ending and unanswered questions.

    • Can I contact you outside the agreed weekly time?
      If for any reason you need to contact me outside your weekly session then in the first instance please email me – – and I will arrange to call you back. Alternatively you can call 01580 445 005 and leave a message. I will get back to you as soon as possible.